Lauren Dungey, mother, blogger, sometimes a runner, gin and undies lover. This sentence has summed me up for a long time. It’s a round up of me, what I’m about, and what my blog is about. But recently I’ve not been such the blogger. Working full time Monday to Friday and living for the weekends has meant that although my goal this year, was to focus on this blog, it hasn’t always happened. And this year I’ve been trying so hard to make my blog stand out, I’ve been so passionate about writing, until this month.
This month has been hard. I’ve had bloggers block, and the reality is the outfits and underwear blogs that I love writing about, I haven’t been able to do. And I’m going to be completely honest, I just can’t afford to. I feel so blessed when I get gifted products and that’s why I write about them, even though I have no obligation to. It’s because I love them. Because I love sharing outfit looks, I love sharing new styles of underwear and swimwear and I love discovering new brands. And the reality is I can’t afford to buy new outfits monthly to write about, as much as I’d love to! In the New Year I reached out to a few brands and had such a wonderful response, I never knew reaching out was even a thing until this year. I’ve always been very fortunate to have been contacted by brands. But I put myself out there, and maybe that’s something I need to do again, keep the contacts up. But at the moment, with algorithms, and shadow banning, it’s hard to grow an organic following and it’s hard not to focus on numbers. From a blogger and a brand point of view.
We live in a society obsessed with hauls, mass ordering, fast fashion. I’m not saying I’m perfect, I’ve been there, done that and I’m sure I will again. But the reality is we need to make small changes, and fast fashion isn’t sustainable. It almost puts me off ordering a haul to try on just to know I’ll be returning. I know most bloggers do it but I don’t want to as much anymore. Instead I’m trying to think of new ways to show you all new styles I’m loving without all the shipping back and forth. But it’s hard. High street shopping is hard.
Yesterday I went into a well known high street store and could not fit into a single piece of clothing. Even though they were all my size. It was deflating, and online shopping for the plus size woman is the better option. Knowing that they want your custom, that the designs are specific for you. There are so many gorgeous brands that now have on trend looks, for the plus sized women, delivered to your door, where you can try on in the comfort of your own home. So why would you put yourself through the dreaded changing room dilemma? The handing back every item to the fitting room attendant, saying they’re all no good.
So what am I going to do? I’m going to get over it, and put myself through the fitting room dilemma. Hopefully they’ll be some positives! I want to find plus size friendly shops on the high street and write about them. I’m thinking a series of new blogs called the fitting room, featuring… and then writing about what I find. It’s a little different from what I’m used to, far from my brick wall images or well thought out park or beach looks. But it’s me, and I want to re-focus on the fashion. Shopping locally is something I definitely want to focus on, especially small businesses. Taunton’s high street is relatively busy, with most shops still full, I want to focus on them.
When I did a Q&A on Instagram recently so many of you said you wanted to see more looks for the plus size woman at a reasonable price. And I want to make it my mission. I want to also make it my mission to attend any events or talks I’m invited to, to take the time for me and if I can’t make it to focus on why I can’t and turn it into a positive. I want to do what makes me happy, and what’s best for me and my mental health. Pushing my anxiety and not letting it hold me back.
I’m also trying to find new times to fit in writing, I no longer get the bus into work, so there’s no more bus blogs and there about to be a few more changes in my life that mean a few things have to be shifted around. Saturday morning blogging before everyone is up and ready is my current new solution. My dream would honestly be to write full time, but right now that’s really not an option and for now The Mum Style is just a part-time hobby.
I’ve been using my ‘dot-creates’ blog planner and it’s really helped me through this block. It’s helped me come up with this piece.
Writing more about body confidence through fashion and where I am with my journey to body confidence is definitely something else I want to incorporate. Recently I’ve taken a back step, with a few more than wanted bad days, and I want to turn that around. I’ve been very honest about it on Instagram and I hope that this is just a bump in the road. But I want to be honest on here too, and so I’m also going to feature another new blog series, called the truth about… as you can see I’ve started with this one! The truth about being the part-time blogger.
Here we go then, it’s a little different, a slightly new approach but I think it’s what’s going to work for me. Don’t get me wrong, the brick wall and undies are going no where! But until I save my pennies or am lucky enough to collaborate. This is it, say hello to ‘the fitting room featuring…’ What do you think? Could this work? I’d love to know your opinions so please let me know in the comments. X